I was born into the group the Children of God (COG) or as they are called now, The Family, the Family International, or Activated Ministries. It’s a Christian cult started in the late 1960’s made up of dropout hippies in Huntington Beach. They went “international” after the leader was sought for kidnapping and tax evasion.

Many will remember the 2005 suicide of their heir apparent Ricky Rodriguez, right after he killed his childhood nanny Angela Smith. That was sensational enough to make headlines and inspire a “Law and Order” episode. Recently author Don Lattin released a book about the cult’s history titled “Jesus Freaks.”This is how the public has always reacted to the COG. It’s upsetting and so it’s dismissed outright as not actually Christian. It’s a quick effort to make sense of it.

That is how we deal with things we don’t like in religion. We reject all unpleasant elements as being frauds. Calling for the death of a teacher because she agreed to name a teddy bear Muhammad? That isn’t actually Muslim. The wide spread molestation of boys by priests? That isn’t actually Catholicism. The institutionalized and systematic abuse of lower and lowest classes? That isn’t actually Hindu. We even go so far as to tout pre-Columbian religions as being peaceful and passive. If we sidestep all the human sacrificing and war-making, they were.

We spend so much time revising and rationalizing the track record of religion we lose track of reality in the process. It’s like debating the atomic structure of the Oxford English Dictionary. Yeah, sure, we’re technically discussing the volumes – but we’re also completely missing the point.

Religion is a very effective way to control, manipulate and convince people to do almost anything. It’s more obvious in smaller cults. But it applies to the bigger denominations as well. Consider the fact that there is nothing wrong with homosexuality outside of religious belief. The same goes for Jews. And as best I can see it – science.

Because when everything is subjective – well, everything is subjective. There is no need for evidence, logic or fact. That means hysteria is on a hair trigger. Which is fine – as long as you, your friends and anyone you care about are all on the right side of the wrath when it comes.

So if the COG has “nothing to do with Jesus,” then what does have to do with Jesus? The Crusades? The Inquisition? The Conquistadors? The witch hunts? The slave trade? Manifest destiny? The Holocaust? Miscegenation laws? Fred Phelps? Crimes against women of questionable virtue? The entire presidency of George W. Bush? They all have to do with Jesus because they were all justified by Christianity. Just like the COG’s prostitution and child abuse was justified.

When you say you are a Christian, you become everything that is or was Christianity. Good, bad or indifferent – it’s ALL Christianity. A drop of water doesn’t get to claim autonomy while swimming in the ocean – even if that drop of water happens to be Mormon and running for president.

The alternative is a skewed and inaccurate, albeit a more comfortable, belief in one’s faith. Like Sherri Shepherd on “The View,” – going one step further than regular creationists who believe that the world was created 6000 years ago and insisting that nothing existed before Jesus (2000 years ago). That’s the new iTestament where you can customize your beliefs so you can stand out among your friends. And why is that so bad? What could go wrong if we forget history under the guise of glossing over what’s objectionable? The first answer is that we can repeat it. We can have another preemptive invasion in the Middle East just like in the First Crusade. Shudder. If we wear rose-colored glasses and refuse to see the problems, then we will NEVER solve them.

When the faithful aren’t aware of the true, unflatteringly lit, warts-and-all history of their religion, its past follies and its vulnerability to mistakes – it leads to the insistence that America is and should be a Christian nation. Our Constitution is a product of the era of The Enlightenment where the foundation was reason. But we are told that our Constitution “rests on a foundation of faith.” This type of revisionist history causes the line of church and state to be blurred, which is precisely what our Constitution tries to guard against. And there is plenty of evidence when that happens, it isn’t beneficial to the church or to the state.

So when stories of cults and abuse in the name of religion make national news, let’s look at the similarities instead of dismissing them because they don’t apply to us. See what they can teach us. And be open to the answers.